When author Christy Berghoef took to the “A Matter of Faith: A Presby Podcast” microphone for a recent episode, hosts Simon Doong and the Rev. Lee Catoe asked her what it was like for her to return to a place she once lived with “a different worldview and faith than the one you were raised in? How do we redefine ourselves when returning to places we call home?”

That’s at the center of Berghoef’s most recent book, “Rooted: A Spiritual Memoir of Homecoming.” Her engaging conversation with Catoe and Doong can be heard here.
During the 59-minute podcast, Berghoef described the small town she was raised in, including being raised “in a pretty small container within that small town.”
“When I moved away, I was stretched in a number of ways,” that are described in her first memoir, “Cracking the Pot.”
“This book focuses on coming home,” she said. “Coming back has been grounding and very disorienting at the same time. It’s a bit like coming into a room and all the furniture has been rearranged.”
“It’s brought a mixture of grief and gratitude,” Berghoef said, “and a new kind of clarity.”
The grief came from mourning the loss “of shared language with the people at home, a shared identity, a shared understanding. It’s tough to come back and realize I just don’t fit anymore.”
Feelings of gratitude came from “the sense that my journey and my experience has brought me to a deeper kind of joy and freedom and compassion and, hopefully, humility,” she said. “Clarity, because when you step back and then step into it again, you can see it with new eyes, at least in my case.”

“I saw these are systems that shaped my beliefs and I can also see why I had to let some of those things go because of the realities I encountered outside of that small container I grew up in.”
Berghoef said she still clings “to the same values I was handed. But the expression of those values has shifted tremendously because of what I encountered in the world, because of people’s hardships and because of the human struggle that I’ve seen.”
“it’s hard for me to say I’m not this person anymore,” she told the hosts. “It’s about showing up with a kind of honesty about who I am, and also showing up with a love that envelops all perspectives — and also a new kind of humility and integrity about what I believe. It’s learning to hold space for others but not shrinking away from who I am.”
She said in returning to her small town, “I had to resist this urge to ether run away in fear … and I had to resist the urge to come back like a crusader, saying, ‘no, let me tell you how it is. You should all be like me! Look how enlightened I am.’”
Instead, she returned to the place “with the mentality of a pilgrim,” she said. “I am here with open hands. Those open hands represent my willingness to give of who I am and also to receive other people and their journeys.” Reciprocal respect and mutuality were not values she learned growing up “in my small container, and so in that way it’s a different way of expressing the faith,” she said. “I think home is where we can show up with grace despite our differences.”
“That’s when I know I’m home,” she said, “when I can be who I am and they can be who they are and we have grace for each other and we try to understand each other. That’s become home for me.”
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Mike Ferguson, Editor, Presbyterian News Service (Click here to read original PNS Story)
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